Showing posts with label The 411. Show all posts
Showing posts with label The 411. Show all posts

$16.50

So, recently I sat down and perused the internet with one price-point in mind...$16.50. What could I (or any of YOU) purchase? Let's see....


I could purchase 2 reserved tickets @ $8.00 a piece to see the Northwest Arkansas Naturals....I know it's 50 cents off, but let's count tax.


How about 2 movie tickets to see...a chick flick? $9.00 a piece, so yah, I little over $16.50.

Ok, here's where it's at!! Lunch at Olive Garden! (Soup, Salad, & Breadsticks....yum) $6.95 x 2 because you can't eat Olive Garden alone. That's about $16.50 with tax and tip!

But let's get REAL accurate.....

A boy's Gap polo, $16.50.


Because EVERYONE needs a $16.50 Toy Story Alien plush toy.

Breadstick again...yah. Little Ceasar's special.

Let's not forget the car...$16.50 will get me the basic oil change service at Sears.

Now, some of these were clearly a joke! Some of them we purchase every weekend or more! (Gotta love the plush toy.)

What if you could take $16.50 and change a LIFE? That's the cost for ONE student to get Reality Check Inc. programming. THAT'S ALL!!

"That I am important! That made me feel committed to me. This class told me things I need to know before I give away my sex. Told me the consequences I might have." - Middle School Students

"It completely changed my mind about everything. I was confused before, but now its all clear to me. I know where Im going and I know what my boundaries are going to be. Reality Check really did a lot for me." - Middle School Student

"I'm glad I got the chance to take this class. Taking this class made me want to talk to my mom about everything, so I did! We are a lot closer now because of this class :). Thanks." - Middle School Student

Check out the student comment cards from EVERY year and EVERY school Reality Check Inc. has had the pleasure of serving in.

$16.50...hmm...




Debunking HPV Myths

Summer time is nice because I actually get to have time to watch things that people email to me. I recently got an email regarding a June 16, 2010 CBS Morning News segment called “Debunking HPV Myths.” It was Dr. Jennifer Ashton visiting with four young women about HPV myths. She made the statement that HPV (Human Papillomavirus) is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections but is also the least understood.


Finally, I thought, maybe she will share some medical information regarding this misunderstood STD or STI (whichever term may apply to the situation.) I was encouraged when one of the young women featured said she thought it was important to start talking about it (HPV) and start being honest. Another young lady chimed in, “This is something we need to know because,
in the end, 80% of us are going to get it.” I was ready for the doctor to provide truth, debunk that myth, wait for it…wait for it…

That’s when the disappointment set in, once again, political correctness takes over. Why didn't the Dr. let her know that those percentages are projections? She and for that matter, anyone else, doesn’t have to be part of that statistic. HPV is a Sexually Transmitted Disease or Infection. If you don’t engage in sexual activity (or any skin to skin genital contact) with an infected person, you won’t get it.

How do you know if someone is infected? Look at their sexual history. According to Dr. Meg Meeker, author of Epidemic, "if a person has had sexual activity with someone who has had more than two previous sexual partners, it is almost certain that person has HPV."


When teens and young adults are given the truth, when they have people they respect setting sexual health standards high, based on that truth, they rise to that standard and make wise choices. We see it year round as we work with teens and young adults.

The opposite is also true. When they have role models in their lives that have bought into the politically correct mantra that “all teens and young adults are going to have sex anyway, just tell
them that “sex + condom = little to no consequences”, we will continue to see the negative health and emotional consequences that we complain about and say we want to fix. We, as a society, continue to set the standard low, and then act shocked, or say, I told you so, when our youth trip over it.

The Dr. then went on to ask pertinent medical questions such as, “Does it make you feel better now knowing that HPV is so common?” and “Do you think it lessens the social stigma.” To which a female responded “I think it does because it made me feel less embarrassed?”

What?! Are you serious? This is the important truth we need to hear about this disease that one out of every two females gets the first time they engage in sexual activity with an infected person? Since when is how you feel about a disease more important than real prevention information?

(If you are reaching this through our newsletter, this is where we left off… Don’t want you to think I am repeating myself although some of this information bears repeating…)

The Dr. asked one female who had HPV pre cancerous cells in her cervix, “How did you feel emotionally?” This would have been a very relevant question if she had talked about the effects of premarital sexual activity, std’s and depression. Sexually active young women are four times more likely to have symptoms of depression than young ladies who choose to save their sex for a faithful marriage relationship. The fear, questioning, uncertainty, etc. that this young lady experienced upon hearing from her physician that she had precancerous cells in her cervix, may very well speak to why we see those different rates.

To give her the benefit of the doubt, and having done interviews myself, there may have been relevant content that was left out of the final cut for this news segment.

The young females did gain information that 90% of females will clear the HPV on their own (according to the strength of their immune system) but it might take up to three years. They were not cautioned however that during the time the body is trying to clear this virus, they are contagious to anyone they engage in sexual activity with. They could also be contagious to their
child should they become pregnant during that time. The emotional and physical impact that both a mother and baby experience when this virus, especially the genital wart type, is transmitted, is devastating.

I have personally met multiple youth, infected at birth, who’s throats and larynxs have been damaged by genital warts that grow there and threaten to close their airway at any point. While some medical studies show this to be rare (10%), (other studies show it to be quite common, 40%-80%) when it is your baby, rare is not a comfort word.

There were also questions regarding HPV’s impact on fertility. A small discussion took place that touched on the impact to fertility “in extreme cases”, if you got cervical cancer. Again, making it seem like a small risk. She went on to say there were not really any “known” impact on fertility
down the road. I think the word “known” is the issue, as we have seen so many changes in what is “known” and “unknown.”

Isn’t it amazing how we will take such precautions with things that don’t really matter because of
a “possibility” that something might happen, but when it comes to STD’s or sexual choices, the politically correct thing to do is either wring our hands, stick our head in the sand, or shoot the messenger?

I have had a young girl (13) sobbing her heart out on my shoulder because she was afraid that
her baby had HPV. She had gone to the Dr. for her first month post delivery visit and had precancerous cells in her cervix. She had had her cervix scraped multiple times and her baby was only six months old. Talk to her about HPV and fertility.

A friend of our staff shared that her friend is having to come to grips with the fact that she may not experience the joy of being a grandmother because her daughter’s fertility has been destroyed by HPV.

The young woman in the news segment who was told that she had HPV and needed to wait for three years to see if it had cleared asked the question, “But what if it’s been three years and it comes back?” The response was “When you are talking about something microscopic, that can
have no symptoms-that is so common, then you see how easy people get it.”

Did I miss the answer to her question in that response? Maybe it was an editing issue?

Hopefully, if it were an editing issue, the Dr. explained to them that if they find out they have it, and they decide to protect their reproductive system in the future, they should choose to be abstinent and not expose themselves to future infection from HPV or other STD’s that compromise the strength of their immune system. Then, when their body clears the HPV, they might not have to worry about it coming back. Some physicians and studies say, the majority of the time, the body fights it off, however, other physicians and studies say the virus can stay latent or dormant in the body to reactivate later in life. This is again one of those “unknown” items. Is it a reactivation, or the product of a re-infection, because risk behavior didn’t change?

The Dr. made the statement that gynecologists don’t test women in their 20’s because it is “assumed or presumed” that they will have HPV. Again, there is that PC theory that all young people will have sex with multiple partners. This is totally insulting to a generation who can and do make wise decisions when they are told the complete truth.

The news clip returns to studio where the anchor and the Dr. discuss the visit with the four females. The anchor asks if HPV can be prevented. The Dr. says this is the Million Dollar Question. She is shooting a little low, as prevention is more like a $16 Billion annual health care cost savings. She does says to prevent HPV you should choose complete abstinence, delaying sexual activity until older, minimizing number of sexual partners, using condoms is important, and getting the vaccine.

She did an excellent job describing complete abstinence as no sexual contact with an infected
person. She could have added to prevention, to be in a monogamous faithful relationship with an uninfected person. The rest of the list however is only lessening of risk and certainly not Prevention. A condom only provides limited (less than 50%) protection and only if the infection is located exactly where a condom covers … outside that area, no protection. She also didn’t
share that the vaccine only protects against 4 of the 40 types of HPV that affect the genital area.
Dr. Ashton did a good job in talking about treatment for HPV and listing treatment and need for gynecology visits, etc.

Then the anchor wanted to branch out so she said, “Obviously, men get it too, because aren’t they the one’s spreading it?” As a mom of a son and Nana to five, possibly six (one on the way) grandsons, I find this very offensive. Why do we make the males the villains? The man that is a carrier got it from an infected female. It is kind of like the, “What came first, the chicken or the egg?” question. And to be blunt, a female can get it from an infected female as well. To the anchor’s question/statement of gender bias, the Dr. includes in her answer that “men are the vectors.” Come on, really. I thought we were going to deal with Myths regarding HPV.

Truth is, if you are sexually active with multiple people or with an infected person you are at risk, female or male. That is exactly why our young men need to be encouraged to not only protect their reproductive system but also their reputation.

The Dr. then went on to briefly mention the different cancers that HPV has been linked to, such as, throat, lung, penile, anal, and other cancers of the reproductive system. She summed up by talking about the vaccine now being approved for boys. You might want to do some research yourself regarding this. You may be surprised by the lack of real research on this, but then again maybe not.

The last statement was “It’s a real significant Health Issue.” Finally the whole truth. It is a real and significant health issue not to mention an expensive issue. America, it is up to us to get educated, do the study, talk to others about this. Mom’s, Nana’s, talk to not only your daughters
and granddaughters, talk to your sons and grandsons as well. Dads, get in on the conversation too. If you know someone who needs more information or if you want more information, you can contact us through www.realitycheckinc.org. You can also get information from the website.

Send this blog to others you know that need real and direct truth about making wise and healthy sexual choices or anyone who is just had a belly full of politically correct Pregnancy/STI prevention propaganda.

How Many Major STD's Are There Today?



Okay all you curious ones. The answer to our twitter/facebook questions is....25! No, you read it right the first time, I typed that there are currently 25 major sexually transmitted diseases out there right now.

When my mother was a senior in high school (1979 , she'll love me for that), she a group from the University of Arkansas come to do their sexual health discussion. It went something like this, "There are two major STD's out there. Use a condom. Go out and have fun." Hmmm...where did that message leave us? This message left my generation and the generations younger than myself, the burden of 25 major STD's.



Let's dig into that number a little deeper though. We know that with the STD HPV (Human Papilloma Virus) there are anywhere from 80 - 100 different strains. (I will speak more on this specific STD in the coming weeks.)

Here is our chance. You and I both know that the only way to being completely free from STD's is to be 100% abstinent. That means, nothing from the top of your head to the tip of your toes in someone else's underwear zone and nothing of their's in your underwear zone. Some STD's can be contracted just by coming in contact with someone's underwear zone (i.e. HPV & Herpes). So, you must be 100% abstinent, marry someone who is uninfected & waited, and then be faithful in your marriage.

When students, parents, single adults start realizing the truth that we can reduce the number of major STD for the next generations, we can literally change the future!! I don't know about you, but I feel empowered!!

Where's Reality Check Inc. Today?

So i am a curious person. I know that I am not the only out there that has to be "in the know". We, at Reality Check Inc., want you to be "in the know" when it comes to where we are! Curious as to which schools are getting our programming RIGHT NOW?

Check our up-to-date calendar at http://www.realitycheckinc.org.

Just think, you can surprise your parents, kids, and even neighbors by knowing exactly where Reality Check Inc. is doing programming. Now that's pretty impressive. SO, satisfy your curiosity and check it out. Do you know which 3 schools we are in this week? I do!

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

I love what Reality Check,Inc. is able to do. We are decreasing teen pregnancy by increasing self-respect and value. A counselor from a local school just made the comment that they are excited to see fewer pregnant teens in their school as well as enjoying the climate change of mutual respect that develops after students finish the program. Isn't life really all about RESPECT? Hum... makes me want to sing...
In a society where 1 in 4 girls between the ages of 14-19 have an STD (sexually transmitted disease), where 1out of every 3 sexually active people has Chlamydia (leading cause of infertility for men and women)1, where 50% of sexually active youth get HPV (human papilloma virus) the first time they engage in intercourse2, and where sexually active youth suffer depression and are over four times more likely to attempt suicide than their non-active peers1, Reality Check, Inc. is having a profound and positive impact.

Reality Check, Inc.'s mission is to reach youth with scientifically accurate medical information that is helping restore value to every aspect of their lives; physically, emotionally, sexually, and educationally. This is accomplished by helping them understand their own personal value and potential. Reality Check, Inc. teaches character skills necessary to guide individuals in making positive life choices and fosters an environment of support for strengthening families within our society.

• The Institute for Research and Evaluation says Reality Check Inc. has moved 66% of students into what is referred to as the “safety zone” and holding them there year to year. 97% of Reality Check Inc. students are either in the “safety zone” or moving towards the “safety zone”. They are armed with needed support for future challenges, acquire greater protective factors, and are more likely inocoulated against pressures to engage in high risk behaviors.

• Reality Check, Inc. provides programs in 2 area colleges and 34 local schools, for 6th -12th grade students and teachers, reaching approximately 13,672 students, teachers and adults during the 2008-2009 school year. Parent, Business, Marriage and Other programs are also available.

• Reality Check, Inc. is not just local. It is global! Reality Check, Inc. has presented program in five states and six countries (Mexico, Guatemala, Argentina, China, India, and Kenya).






Reality Check, Inc. Programs:

• Five age-appropriate level programs based on Choosing the Best material for public and private schools.

• X-Factor Games: Middle School-High School (Five Days of Games with a Purpose teaching Boundary Setting, Goals, Integrity, and Assertiveness.)

• Building Your Life For the Future: Middle School- High School (Skill Development, Integrity, Power of Planning)

• Parent Programs ( Std’s, Parenting Pure and Protected Teens, Youth Brain Research.)

• Life in Focus Series:

- Series 1: Life as a Sex Offender: Older teens and adults.
(Understanding the Law and Choices.)
- Series 2: Every Choice Matters: High School-Singles (Four Couples talk
about Boundaries, Goals, Dealing with Pressures and the Power and Purpose
of Waiting.)
- Series 3: Relationship Rx: Married Adults (Strengthening Marriages)
- Series 4: A Look Back: High School- Adult (Healing Childhood Hurts)

• Youth and the Brain: Middle School-Adult: (Understanding Teens, Communicating Effectively, and Changing Behaviors using Youth Brain Research.)

• At the end of every program, we give the students a blank index card and ask one question, “What impact did this class have on you?” Here is just a SMALL taste of what students around the world have to say about Reality Check Inc programs:

o “This class profoundly impacted my life and the way I look at the world altogether. My mom was pregnant with me when she was 17 and was forced to drop out of high school to raise me. We never had much money, nice clothes, or even a decent house for more than a couple of months. Now (after attending this course) I realize everything she went through and how that affected me and my siblings. I understand now and am committed to not making my kids go through what I did, and not put any girl in the situation my mom was in. Thank you so much for everything.” – Rogers High School

o “it was like you understand us!” – Student in Latur, India

o Reality Check taught me that I have more value and worth than what I sometimes believe. And it’s better to have high self-confidence and be single then low self-confidence and be making mistakes. Also, that everything in life is a choice and it’s MY choice. You can’t go back to make a new beginning but you can start now and make a new end! – Bentonville High School

o “Many campers understood what it meant to be a person of integrity for the first time in their lives.” – Teen Camp, Haikou, China

o “In this class what really impacted me is how many STD’s are out there. I really thought that those things couldn’t happen, at least to me. It made me realize that sex isn’t everything and that actually not having it is for the best, which is why I am promising myself to be abstinent until marriage. I want to have a bright future and tons of different opportunities for life. Before this program, my boyfriend and I were really serious about having sex. After this program, it’s not gonna happen! He can leave me, I’m saving myself. After all, I’m only in the 7thgrade!!! Thanks for coming.” – Lingle Middle School

o "I think that Reality Check, Inc. is the best thing that could ever be taught in schools, or anywhere. I support it 100%. And I don't think it’s making an impact on students, I KNOW it is.” - Lead Hill, AR.

o “Well, I really thought about my life while taking this class. It was a huge WAKE UP on all the STD's that are out there. This was my Reality Check and I think it's a very important class that should continue on to teach others the importance of how your decisions affect your life forever.” – Southwest Junior High

• Here’s what others have to say:

o “I wish I could have heard this when I was young. I craved love and thought giving away sex was gaining love. Keep it up so other young girls will be spared the hurt, confusion, and lost years. Please continue.” -Parent

o “Reality Check, Inc. programs change the classroom climate. When they leave you have students being students and kids being kids again…” – Local Teacher

o "...Based on the attitudinal-survey information that I have received from those students who have participated in the Reality Check program, I am now even more convinced of the value of the program. I look forward to assisting with the implementation of Reality Check in all the middle schools and junior high schools... As a result of that program, our students should be better prepared to make quality judgments relative to their health and sexual decision-making." – Local Superintendent

• For many more student and community comments, log on to www.realitycheckinc.org.

• Reality Check, Inc. will teach 10,000+ teens this year at a cost of $32 per student, which is $4 per student hour. For every $1 invested in programs that address teen self-discipline there is a $6 savings in societal cost.3

• Reality Check, Inc. is helping youth develop Respect and Self-Discipline, which in a study of college students was a better predictor of academic achievement than a number of other variables including SAT scores.

• Reality Check, Inc. is relying on individuals and businesses to continue this important work.

Together we can help our youth build a lifetime of success.

1. Center for Disease Control STD March 2008, 2. CDC 3. “Federal funding for Abstinence Education: A win/win for taxpayers and teens”, NAEA, January 2008

Every Choice Matters

What a whirlwind the last few days have been! For those who have not heard Tobias Lyon's name let me share the story in brief. Tobias Lyons, 25 asked a 14 year old girl for sex and another for nude pictures. He worked for Tree of Life Preventative Maintenance Inc. in Fort Smith, Arkansas. They just so happened to have a program called Reality Check that also "taught" abstinence. Tree of Life is a faith based organization which even added great value to the media. Such headlines came out as, "Man who Preached Abstinence Arrested for Sexual Indecency" (italics added by me). Tobias, according to research was just married in June 2009.
Now, let's look at the people impacted by one persons decisions. The young girls, their parents, his family, his young wife, the schools, Reality Check Inc. in Lowell that is in no way even tied to them, our schools, the entire river valley community, our community, the church has even taken a hit because of the tie of a faith based incorporation, and not to mention the thousands of students who may now not hear our message because of his stupidity.

You tell me every choice doesn't matter? I tell the students in every class that I teach it's not just your future you could be ruining by bad choices but hundreds and maybe even thousands of others. Here is a prime example. I am in no way defending Tree of Life Preventative Maintenance Inc., their programs, nor their instructors but I do stand strong in defense of Reality Check Inc. in Lowell, Arkansas, our programs, our instructors, and what we do within our public schools. We teach abstinence as one part of our program along with the ability to set goals, boundaries, that you have worth and value, and know that you have someone that believes in you.

Here's the skinny, what we do is changing the lives of hundreds and thousands here in Northwest Arkansas. I fully believe that most people don't have ANY problem with what we teach but merely that we teach abstinence. I feel strong that it's more of a "word association" problem too. It's not that they aren't intelligent (for the large majority) enough to understand that you are not going to get a STD/STI or pregnancy if you aren't having sex or using drugs, it's that they are afraid of a "christian" message.

Let's be honest, Reality Check Inc. is a community based program that teaches truth from a medical, healthy life bases and truth is truth. 2+2=4 will always be true, believer or not. Our message isn't do this or burn, or do this and we "guarantee" you this. Our message is about a choice, your choice, and yes, every choice matters because it's your future
.